Let’s face it, negativity will always be a part of life. Even the most positive people have negative moments every once in a while. The difference is that these seemingly always positive people know how to transform negativity into a positive experience simply by changing their perception of the situation and thinking before reacting. The good news is that you can too.
The first step to transforming the negative into the positive is accepting that shit happens. Shit happens and it’s going to suck and you’re going to feel crappy about it. After you’ve accepted this reality, you can move on to making better choices in how you react to these situations, which will help you stay sane and make clear decisions. Over the course of my life, there are a few things that I have learned about negativity and how I deal with it. Identifying these feelings has helped me to take a step back and change the way I see it. Only by doing this have I learned to be more accepting of life and ultimately happier.
Accept that negative shit will happen
As previously mentioned, shit happens. Accept it, you’ll never be able to change that. But what you can change is the way you choose to react to it. Yes, it’s snowing again, but shit happens. Yes, there is traffic and it’s taking you longer to get where you need to be, but shit happens. Yes, the subway has stalled once again, SHIT HAPPENS! Accept that you can’t do anything about it and you’ll instantly feel less stressed.
Know that not everyone will approve of your choices
No matter what you choose to do with your life (or your Saturday night for that matter), someone will always have an opinion about it. And unless your choice has the potential to harm yourself or others, it doesn’t matter. There will always be someone who disagrees your decisions and always someone who will criticize. But chances are their criticism has more to do with how they feel about themselves versus your decision. The truth is that if you are confident about your dreams, goals and decisions, who cares about what others think. You are making the right decision for yourself and that’s what matters.
See that there is a lesson to be learned in every situation
If you follow my blog you know by now that 2015 was quite the difficult year for me. But looking back, I have the choice to look at it and think, “Wow! What a shitty year I had!”, or, “Wow! I’ve learned so many things this year”. When something doesn’t go the way we planned, it’s easy to blame others and play the victim. Instead of taking the easy way out, think of what you learned at that moment. How did it make you grow as a person? How did it make you stronger? How did it makes you a better person? If faced with the same situation, what would you do differently? At first, I looked back at 2015 thinking it was the most awful year of my life. But now I look back admiring how the lessons I’ve learned have allowed me to become a better version of myself. You can read more about the lessons I’ve learned in 2015 here.
Realize that you have something to be grateful for
We all have things to be grateful for in life, even though sometimes it’s difficult to see it. Gratitude is something that I try to practice every day. I start each day with my Five Minute Journal, where I write three things that I’m grateful for. This helps set a positive tone for the day and helps me let go of negative feelings. I mean, how can you be negative when you realize all the little things you are grateful for. Having a gratitude journal, I find myself flipping through the pages and reading all the things that I am grateful for, from a warm bed to sleep in and the smell of coffee in the morning, to my loving family and the moment my cat comes to cuddle with me. Life is full of things to be grateful.