I really believe that every decision you make and every action you take has a ripple effect on the rest of your life. That if you were to change one thing from your past, it would alter every detail of your life from the people in your life, your current situation, even possibly where you live. When I look back at my own life, there is so much that I wish I would have done. I’m not saying that I would necessarily change things in my life, but there are opportunities I wish I had taken, and definitely opportunities thatI wish I had created for myself. I’m someone who is ok with routine (to a certain extend) with means that I can forget to seize the day. This has left me with a feeling tat something in my life is missing at times. Recently, I’ve been looking back on my younger years, trying to figure out what I did that shaped me into who I am now and brought me to this point in my life. When we are young, we are in such a rush to grow up and adult. It’s only when you get to the point when adulating is no longer an option, but a requirement that you wish you had taken time to live a little. If you are in your teens or early twenties and reading this, I hope it will inspire you to take a moment to reflect on the future and make choices that will have a lasting impact on your life.
I wish I had hung out with a different crowd
I feel that my life has been a constant struggle of trying to fit in without ever really finding my place. As a result, I found myself following the crowd instead of doing the things that I loved doing, fearing that I would be judged or criticized. I didn’t go to school dance, didn’t go out late (or rather as late as my friends), didn’t go to clubs until I was 18 and therefore I didn’t really fit in. I wish that I would have been able to be confident enough to not let the mean girls get to me and stayed true to who I was. Maybe then I would have better memories of my high school days.
I wish I had continued dancing or swimming
When I was young, my parents put me in swimming and ballet. Although the swimming was more of a life skill, ballet was meant to be something that would help me develop social skills and inspire me to be the best that I can be. At some point, I gave it up because my new friends weren’t into that kind of thing. I gave up something I loved because others didn’t love it too. Looking back now, I can see how ridiculous that sounds. Giving up something you love because of other people is something you’ll always regret.
I wish I hadn’t been so naive
I’ve always been the type of girl who believed in fairytales (still do). I imagined that I would find the perfect guy, I would be swept off my feet and live happily ever after. Being hopeful about love is nothing to be ashamed about. Unfortunately I feel that in the past, this way of thinking clouded my judgement when it came to making important choices for myself. In the past, I stayed in relationships longer than I should have even though deep down I knew that this person wasn’t right for me. I stayed, hopeful that things would somehow work themselves out and we would eventually want the same things. The result was a lot of tears and pain. No one should feel that way.
I wish I had travelled more
Throughout my college and university career, I spent most of my time focused on classes, assignments and exams. Once I graduated, I celebrated with a trip to Italy to visit a friend for a few weeks. It was the first time I took a trip without my family and my first time in Europe… and it changed my life. It was the first time I felt so independent. I had saved up my money to buy a plane ticket and had to budget for all the restaurants, shopping and treats I would be treating myself to. I met new people along the way and experienced life in a way that was so unfamiliar to me, but that also felt so comfortable. Since then, I haven’t really travelled that much, choosing instead to work and focus on my career. Not travelling as much has been one of my biggest regrets and one that I am hoping to rectify in the future.
I wish I had spent more time with my dad
When you’re young, all you want to do is be with your friends. It’s not until you get older that you realize that friends come and go, but family is there forever. When I was 26, my dad got sick and passed away a few months later. It was by far the most difficult time in my life that I had ever been through and I still struggle with it some days. I remember times when I took my family for granted, thinking that they would always be there. But the truth is that you really don’t know how much time you have to spend with those you love. Although my dad isn’t with us anymore, I know he still watches over me.
Is there anything you wish you would have done when you were younger? Leave them in the comments below.