2016 was… special. There were lots of happy times sprinkled with challenges, tears and frustrations. There were also a few lessons learned along the way. Here I share with you the most significant things I’ve learned in the past year and the lessons I’ll be taking with me to make 2017 the most beautiful year.
A negative mind won’t give you a positive outcome
We all go through shit times which generally gives us the right to have a pity party for ourselves for a limited time. After that, you have to buck up and figure out a solution to get out of your funk. If you don’t, you could find yourself in a spiral of negativity that usually has a snowball effect. Suddenly you start noticing everything that’s wrong/bad/sucky around you. It’s just not a good place to be in. I am a bug believer in the law of attraction. Think positive things and positive things will happen. It’s also a matter of perception. A positive mind will open your eyes to all the beautiful things around you and soon you’ll start to notice all the wonderful things that are happening in your life. Then (and this is where the magic happens), you’ll start feeling lucky. It’s a wonderful feeling!
It’s ok to slow down
Look around you and you’ll notice people rushing (and sometimes running) around to get from one lace to the next. Rushing to finish their meal. Rushing to get grocery shopping done. Everything is a race against time. But why? Once I realized that I could slow down and do things in the time it takes to do them, a weight was lifted off my shoulders. I felt less stressed by what I needed to get done, and less anxiety when surrounded by people around me frantically running around. It also helped realize that I can’t do everything in one day and it’s ok. It’s really quite liberating.
Things are never as bad as they seem
When things go wrong, it’s easy to turn it into a saga. All of a sudden, your entire life (and everything in it) sucks. But things are never as bad as they seem to be. The truth is that in a day, a week, a month… whatever is going wrong probably won’t matter.
You have a friend, you need to be a friend
Friendships are so important and maintaining them takes some work. If you want friends to be around you, you need to also make a conscious effort to reach out, see how things are going and make plans. Sitting around waiting for someone to care is a recipe for loneliness.
If you want something, don’t wish for it, work for it
Stop wasting time wishing for things to happen! If you want something, you gotta work for it. My goal this year was to get in the best shape of my life. I started BBG (and am in my 4th round!), stuck to a nutrition plan and got myself in the best shape of my life. My results are amazing, but it came with a lot of hard work and discipline. Now I’m setting new fitness goals for 2017.
Not everyone is going to like you
And that’s ok! I have spent wayyyyy too much time in my life wanting people to like me, to the point that I couldn’t even recognize myself. What matters most is that I like myself and I try my best to be a good person. If you like me, great. If you don’t, then I don’t care.
It’s ok to not give a f**k
I recently read the book The life-changing magic of not giving a f**k and it honestly changed my perspective on life. If you’re one of those people-pleasing people, this book is for you. It gives you guidelines to stop giving a f**k about things that don’t bring you joy just for the case of not wanting to disappoint someone else. F**k it! You do you, stop giving a f**k about things you don’t want to do and keep those f**ks for the things that matter to you and make you happy. Period.
Saying “yes” is a wonderful thing
This is not to be confused with the previous lesson of not giving a f**k. This is more along the lines of opening yourself up to new opportunities, getting out of your comfort zone and possibly discovering something you love.
It’s ok to lose what needs to get lost
Change is hard, but sometimes necessary. Whether it’s a bad relationship, friend, job, whatever, if it’s making you feel like shit, it’s ok to let it go. Life is too short to waste it worrying about people of things that don’t care about you.
Don’t complain without a having a solution
Complaining is easy (chances are there’s someone complaining around you right now). But if you make it a personal policy to not complain unless you have a solution, you’ll turn the negative situation into a positive one and come out looking like the hero in the process (score!). Also, remember that there is a lesson to learn in every situation.
It’s ok to feel vulnerable
When did it become so socially unacceptable to have feelings? It’s so ridiculous, not to mention bad for your health. Take the time to feel what you need to feel and recognize that it’s ok if you don’t feel happy/strong/positive all the time. Everyone feels vulnerable at some point and it’s ok. The people you love will be there so support you.
Self-love makes all the difference
I was once asked, “why do you go to they gym to torture yourself”. The answer is simple – I don’t workout because I hate my body, I workout because I love it. The same goes for nutrition – what started as a means to look better ended up making me feel better. So no, I don’t want your cheap doughnut or sad store-bought cookie, the calories aren’t worth it, nor is that horrible feeling that comes with it. I would rather save my cheat for something that matters (like pizza!). And the truth is that once you start loving yourself, that’s when the magic happens!
Life is short
Buy the shoes, get that plane ticket, make that phone call. My father passed away 10 years ago and there isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t miss him like crazy. Dealing with death at a young age made me realize that you don’t have all the time in the world. Anything can happen at any moment. So don’t wait until… to do what you want to do. Seize the day, make it happen… now!
Listening is a skill
There’s no nice way to say this, so I’m just going to go for it – People just don’t shut the f**k up! Everyone has an opinion and fells (for some reason) that we all want to hear it. I’m guilty of this as much as the next person. But if you stop talking and actually listen, you might actually hear what people are saying.
Celebrate the little things
It’s Friday! The sun is out! My favourite song is on! Stop focusing on what you didn’t do today and take a look at all the wonderful things that happened. Take a moment to recognize and celebrate the little things and each day will be that much more beautiful!
The key to having it all is realizing that you already do