“If you feel like you need a big change in your life, start by saying ‘yes’ more and new things start to happen.” – Dave Corinthwaite
The end of 2017 was one of the most challenging times of my life. Overwhelming feelings of unhappiness were the norm and I couldn’t help but feel that there had to be something else in this world meant for me. Coincidentally, it’s also around this time that I picked up the book The Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes. To say this book changed my perspective on things is an understatement. We all know that saying “yes” can lead us to new opportunities and experiences. But after reading his book, something clicked in me. The unhappiness I was feeling was mostly created by myself, which means that I have the power to change it just by saying “yes” more. Fast-forward to present day 2018; I made a promise to myself that this year I would say “yes” more. That means getting out of my comfort zone more, pushing myself to do things and go places when all I really want to do is be my introverted self at home under a cozy blanket watching Netflix, being a little scared and realizing that here really isn’t anything to be afraid of.
A simple word, “yes”, has the power to impact your life in such a positive way and help you make time for the things that matter most to you. Here are 15 things that I started saying “yes” to (or plan to) this year.
They don’t call it “happy” for nothin’. After a long day at work, all I feel like doing is going home to chill out. Saying “yes” to an after work drink with friends or colleagues is such an amazing time to bond and create meaningful connections. Not to mention lots of fun!
I’m always doing something – cleaning my apartment, organizing my closet, prepping meals, I always find something to do. But sometimes all you need is a lazy day to do nothing and not feel guilty about it. We all need time to relax and recharge, and that’s ok.
This one is a tough one for me because I’m an early bird and can’t stay up past 11pm. But every once in a while, being in the moment and not worrying about the time feels good and carefree.
Whether it’s that donut you’ve been craving or a delicious pizza, say “yes”! I’m the first to advocate healthy eating, but giving in to your cravings can be good for you when done in moderation. It helps you stay balanced and will help you stay on track with your fitness goals. It’s also the perfect time to plan a fun time with friends knowing you don’t have to worry about what you’re eating.
A Shoulder to Lean On
If life has taught me anything in the past few years, it’s that it’s ok to ask for help. We tend to bottle things up and resist asking for help because we are scared it’ a sign of weakness when its actually a sign of strength. When you feel stressed, overwhelmed, sad or whatever, don’t be shy to say “yes” to friends and family who are there to help.
Going Somewhere Alone
This is a tough one. Especially since we live in a digital age and most people tend to whip out their phones when they don’t know anyone in a room rather than talk to each other. Go to an event where you don’t know anyone, put away your phone and see what happens.
I’ve been planning a vacation for three years now, but I have yet to actually book anything and go anywhere. I couldn’t tell you what’s holding me back (maybe money, maybe it’s being outside my routine). Regardless, I know that I deserve it.
My Beautiful Self
I love makeup, but lately I’ve taken a step back and tried to embrace my natural beauty. Wearing the bare minimum to let my beautiful self shine through and you know what? I feel beautiful.
Last year I took a food photography course and loved it! I’ve always had a passion for photography but thought that I could learn everything myself. Not only did this course teach me new techniques in photography and food styling, I also met some cool people with the same passion as me. Win-win!
Lunch With My Colleagues
In my previous job, I had a pretty committed relationship with my computer. In fact, my computer was my lunch date on most days. Now, I take the time to step away from my computer and have lunch with my colleagues and it’s really amazing. I come back to my desk feeling refreshed and ready to conquer the afternoon and I’ve made some pretty cool friends in the process.
The Stack of Books I’ve Been Collecting
I love buying new books. I have the best intentions to read them before ordering new ones, but somehow I always end up with a stack of books that go unread. This year I’ve committed to getting through them and falling back in love with reading.
Going To A Movie Alone
Why are we so freaked out to go to the movies alone? We are all sitting in silence anyway. Going to a movie alone has its advantages – you get to see exactly what YOU want to see, you have more seating choices and you don’t have to share your snacks.
I’m a very structured and organized person and I admit that anything that goes outside what I’ve planned throws me off. But looking back, some of the best times I’ve had were unplanned and completely go-with-the-flow. Every time I feel myself being a little too rigid, I think about those times and try to let go and see what happens!
Have you started saying “yes” more? Share your experiences below.